As the popular saying goes, misery loves company. The saying rings true amongst women, and, according to popular belief, especially amongst women of color. Pull down syndrome manifests in a variety of behaviors such as resenting the success of others, disregarding or belittling achievements, pointing out faults or crushing self-esteems, and withholding opportunities for empowerment or growth from individuals. It is a frequent occurrence in society as a whole, and according to some schools of thought, particularly amongst black women.
Besides career success, successful relationships are also another area where women tend to judge each other. Even in the most random situations and sometimes without meaning to, women still judge and demean other women. This takes me back to Issa’s open mic freestyle on the pilot episode of insecure about her friend’s inability to maintain a stable relationship, as well as instances where Tiffany would rub her supposedly perfect relationship in her friend’s faces while demeaning their relationships. Although the topic is one of the subtle ones depicted on the show, it successfully shines the spotlight on this important issue.
It is often said that women do little to nothing to support and empower other women in achieving their goals and rising to positions of authority. Take for instance the recently concluded United States presidential election where a woman was one of the front runner for the first time in the nation’s history. Surprisingly statistics showed that majority of the female voters supported the male candidate. Situations like this lead to increased belief in the pull her down syndrome.
Pull down syndrome is a common practice amongst women in general, and in my opinion, not exclusive to women of color. Women are very powerful and can effect immense change in the world by coming together and putting aside judgement and resentment.