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By Zakiya M. Ousley
So if you haven’t heard, Kendrick Lamar dropped his new single, HUMBLE. Now many women are offended by his definition of a “real woman” and for using the word “bitch.” Really though?
Just to break it down his lyrics say,
“I’m so fuckin’ sick and tired of the Photoshop, Show me somethin’ natural like afro on Richard Pryor, Show me somethin’ natural like ass with some stretch marks, Still will take you down right on your mama’s couch in Polo socks…”
People argue that from a “feminist” stand point, that he should not target women nor make assumptions that a woman isn’t natural because she uses photoshop, or has major body enhancements. On one hand I can agree with that but on the other hand I DON’T. Here is why:
1. Kendrick Lamar is a rapper! No matter what he may say or do outside of the studio, this man’s goal is to sell records. Even if that means dropping lines that may upset you. Why let his agenda affect your life? Why take this man’s lyrics so personally. And if you are think about why he’s tapping on a real nerve that might have less to do with him and more to do with you. Furthermore, this isn’t the first time that a rapper has said something that got people upset and it won’t be the last. Keep on livin’ your life and try and stay calm.
2. It’s kind of weird that people are upset about how Kendrick talks about the type of woman that he likes, though they have no problem with him saying the word “nigga.” (I personally don’t have a problem with it, I’m just sayin’). Not to mention the countless amount of disrespectful things several rappers say about women – and Kendrick talking about the kind of women he likes got folks in arms up? I bettah not catch any of these same people who claim to be upset turnt up at the club or in the car listening to “Bad and Boujee” with me cause I know I’ll be dancing but then again I’m not that upset.
3. Even woke people fall asleep! Yeah, Kendrick is woke. Black lives matter to him. He’s down with the natural hair movement. But, every now and then folks slip back into their ways. He’s telling us what kind of woman he likes, and either way, he likes a good looking woman, so he would take her down no matter how she looks. Who cares if he puts a light skinned or a dark skinned woman in his video. She was black! That’s all that matters. People act like light skin girls don’t have kinky hair and natural butts. How can we accuse him of colorism when we are doing the same thing here? There are plenty of other videos out here where we need to be looking for more Black girls (I’m looking at you Justin Bieber having Black/Caribbean/African dance moves in your video with no featured Black girls…just SORRY.) Back to Kendrick haters… Be humble! Sit Down! Message!
4. Bruh never said that he’s a feminist. Does he believe in women’s rights? Maybe he does. That’s not gonna stop him from saying the word bitch. Hell, I believe in women’s rights. I will also listen to the most ratchet song ever and dance to it because I’m an Urban Chameleon and it’s complicated. USDA has a song called “Imma Throw this Money”(If you have never heard it, look it up) I should be very ashamed for dancing to it because of it’s vulgar and disrespectful lyrics (shake your ass bitch, Imma throw this money), but I’m not! I have twerked hard to this song, nobody gave me any money but whatever. It doesn’t make me less of woman, and Kendrick saying, “bitch be humble” doesn’t make his a misogynist. All of the hotep-esque kings that I know, slip up and say bitch, nigga and hoe every now and again. I bet even President Obama had to call some Black folks the n-word during his term they way that some came for him. The point is, does saying these words make folks like Kendrick less hotep?
5. You can’t be upset at one artist for objectifying women, and not all of them. To be honest we should all be tired of fake asses and Photoshop pictures because they make it look to easy to carry a big butt and big breasts. Mine are natural and it’s a struggle everyday. I have knocked down shoeboxes and once, a man off of a ladder with my big ass. I even lost some change in my shirt and didn’t find it until a few weeks later! The struggle is real folks. The bottom line is be who you are! Most of the men that I know don’t care about that extra stuff anyway. It looks good but what else do you have to offer? He’s telling people to be humble with what you have and then go and sit your stretch mark ass down somewhere! Basically let this man live. His song is fire, so is the beat and if we are going to attack him for one line then we should attack every other rapper or rap group that disrespects women and men. Be humble! Sit down!
Zakiya M. Ousley is an upcoming independent comedy writer and screenwriter from Oakland, CA. She has earned a Master of Fine Arts degree in Screenwriting from Academy of Art University in San Francisco and her Bachelors of Arts Degree from Clark Atlanta University in Political Science. After having a change of heart about attending law school she began doing what she loves which is making people laugh and writing films and television. Follow her on Facebook: Zakiya Ousley, Instagram @zakishi08 and Twitter: @zakishi